‘No phone, mama, no phone.’
My daughter reached over the little yellow table and guided my unoccupied hand towards the toy cash register we’ve been playing with. My other occupied hand was busy taking pictures of her playing.
I looked at her somewhat ashamed.
We were suppose to be playing cashier and spending quality time together. Instead, I got distracted taking pictures of her playing. Then I got distracted some more uploading her picture to Instagram.
By being on my phone, I’m missing the opportunity to play and connect with her. My body was there but my mind was not present. More importantly, my actions just told my daughter my phone with a cracked screen is more important than her…and I
felt still feel guilty about it.
I want my children to know that THEY matter most to me – not my phone.
Just like you, we’ve got our phones attached to our hips. I don’t know how we’ve ever kept in touch with our friends, planned our outings or remembered anything before our smartphones.
But that’s just it….the technology that was made to simplify our lives and connect us with the world is also disconnecting us from the people we love most.
And so, I’m making some phone usage rules for myself…and I’m publicly announcing this for accountability.
My Phone Usage Rules:
- I will answer phone calls and reply to text messages when I’m not playing with my children.
- I will check emails, play on Facebook and Instagram twice a day for 20 minutes each time.
- When I want to take pictures of my children while we are playing, I will ask for permission first, then take pictures for 1 minute max.
- I will put away the phone during meal times – whether we are eating out or eating at home. If something REALLY funny happens and needs to be documented (like accidentally dropping a big glob of guacamole on my defenceless baby’s head while eating dinner), I will ask for permission before taking my phone out for photos.
These are my promises….because I choose my children over my phone.
Comment below if you have the same phone distraction problem.